Every time that someone in France extends even the smallest gesture of kindness here, it means the world to me. I am without family, without the web of friends and support that I have spent the last 22 years weaving. And that's amazing! I have learned so much, and I appreciate every moment that I'm physically around family and friends all the more because of it. But still, there's a day-to-day world that must be lived in.
Angie, why the heck are you bringing this all up? Well, as I tell my students, usually with a little too much excitement, that's a great question!!!!!!
Be kind to newbies, open your life to those who don't have a community or may be trying to make one. You don't have to be their best friend. You don't even have to invite them over twice. Shoot, you don't even have to invite them over once! But ask them about themselves, and make an honest effort to learn what makes them a beautiful and unique person. It doesn't take long to get there, you can do it in 10 minutes, but it's these interactions that have kept me going in France. Just having someone acknowledge that you are a worthwhile person who has something interesting to say is such a grounding, homey feeling. Everyone at home knows I'm (somewhat) articulate and not too painful to hold a conversation with, but no one here does! Give people a chance, people. Take a minute out of your routine to help someone else build the framework for one of their own. You won't regret it! Best case scenario, you meet your new bestie til the end of time! Worst case, you have an incredibly awkward interaction that makes the rest of your day feel that much more graceful. It's a win-win!
Be kind to people. Kindness is the best.
Lovesies,
Angie
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